Our bonus kids are being adopted TODAY! They have been with their forever family for a while and today it becomes officially official. They lived with us for 2 years and it was the hardest, but awesome two years of our lives. I hear all the time “what is it like when you get attached and have to say goodbye?” gut-wrenching, awesomeness. To be a part of someone finding their forever family is a feeling like no other. To be a part of someone’s life and learn from them, to see their drive, to experience their love is worth the feeling of loss.
A friend of ours shared at our meeting his story and explained that the doctors who helped him as a baby are still making an impact on his life 32 years later. He was encouraging the crew, that the work they are doing today will still be impacting our patients in the year 2047 and beyond. I pray Annabell and Adriel will remember us (and be calling us) in 32 years, but even if they don’t… I know God used us in that time in their lives and even more so, used them in OUR lives that will effect us 32 years from now.
I also have a good friend in their bio mom, their new mom and dad and all the people who helped us. Meet the Chase’s. This is their new family. They showed up at the perfect, God ordained moment. They endured me investigating them and asking hard questions. They stuck around when things were crazy. And they have continued to stick around for these kids, they are their mom and dad, and I am so grateful for them! We will always share a bond that I cannot even begin to describe here. We love you Chase’s, all 4 of you!
I pulled some random Facebook posts, to remember the journey and thank God for where these kids are now:
NOV 24, 2012
Best gift of all was watching my new friend tirelessly say “Happy Thanksgiving” to every single person who walked through the John 316mission. You see, she is 6 years old and for some reason was taken from her parents and is living in a shelter here in Tulsa. Her brother is four and terrified. He rarely lets go of her hand, her hand is red and sore from holding her brother’s hand so much. But SHE was the best greeter, the one with the most joy at the mission…looking at each person in the eye truly wanting THEM to have a happy Thanksgiving. Oh God, give me eyes to see.
DEC 8, 2012
Thankful!! We found something our new guy loves!! Thank you, Jesus. What a gift after a very long week.
MARCH 15, 2013
5 months ago a little girl became part of our family for a short time. You may remember the story of her wishing everyone at the John 316 mission “happy thanksgiving” while squeezing her little brothers hand? When we met her, 5 months ago, she couldn’t recognize her letters. Now, she is back home with her mom and dad. I got to see her tonight and she read a Barbie book to me….like sounded out the words and all! AND when I told her I was proud of her, she said “Jesus helped me read.” Not only does she have the confidence to know she CAN, but she knows Jesus is with her wherever she goes. I have a lot of hard stories, but this one makes it worth it. Thank you Jesus. And thank you, Karis Pumphrey for letting God use you in her life.
JUNE 18, 2014
We said goodbye to this brave girl for the 5th time last night. She is the most determined 7 year old I’ve ever met. Had never even been in a pool, and was swimming within a couple hours. She was able to go to family camp wtih us, and here she is jumping off the high dive.
MAY 18, 2015
I cannot stop thinking about these flower bouquets. Each bouquet represents an answer to prayer for a little girl. Two years ago, she had a blank stare and didn’t believe she would ever be celebrated. She even said “I only have birthdays, not parties.” After years of tears, on all of our parts, God granted her and her brother a forever family. Tonight I watched that family… not just a mom and dad, but grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins surround our foster daughter as she stood on stage and shined at her very first dance recital. She was celebrated. She held many bouquetsof flowers which each represent a different person who loves her. Some of which include a bio mom, a foster mom, and a new adoptive mom. I am thankful that her new mommy is there each night to keep her safe and love her through this crazy road called life. I’m also thankful that her bio mom is there to remind her how loved and important she is. Yes I became attached through foster care…so attached that I rejoice in God’s plan for her life which is better than any plan I could have dreamed up. Don’t let your fear of getting too “attached” keep you from being a part of a little girl or boy finally get their bouquets. Thankful I could be a part of her life.